Saturday, October 20, 2012

Parenting the Young Child



Parenting The Young Family
“There is no role in life more essential and more eternal than that of motherhood.” Elder Ballard
     I.        How to be more prepared each day?
·         Wake up a little earlier than the rest of the family.
·         Read scriptures
·         Pray
·         Write down your daily checklist.
1.       Something you want to do for yourself. (read for 20 mins./blog/nap/veg…)
2.       Something you want to do for someone in your family. (call grandma/write a note husband)
3.       Something you want to do in your world. (clean the floor/organize a closet)
4.       Write any other tasks you would like to get done that day.
·         Exercise
   II.        How to manage our home with our children?
*Routine and Chores; which will also teach our children responsibility as well.
·         Routine/Schedule
1.       Morning (say prayers, make your bed, get dress, brush teeth & hair)
                                                         i.            7:00am Breakfast
                                                       ii.            7:30am family scripture reading and prayers
2.       Afternoon (after school snack, homework, then free time)
3.       Dinner (sweep, dishes, front room, clear cups, wipe counters)
4.       Bed 
                                                         i.            8:00pm family prayer
·         Chores
Linda Eyre from her book A Joyful Mother of Children says “There are many specific ways to cut down on stress in a normal hectic household. Probably one of the most vital is to share the workload with husband and children. Although this will almost inevitably produce mass pandemonium initially, it’s worth sticking to it until the process becomes expected and routine. Don’t despair, no matter what, because as children learn to accept responsibility -- from the tiny beginnings of the two-year-old being able to get a diaper for the baby to the big things like doing a good job cleaning the bathroom -- it is so much the better for everybody involved.
Many times we say to ourselves in exasperation, “I could do it so much faster and easier myself!” Just remember -- it’s worth the time and trouble in the long run to teach children responsibility.”


Daily Chores for Mom
·         Kitchen (unload the dishwasher and fill dishwasher throughout the day and wipe down counters)
·         Start a load of laundry (place folded laundry on children’s bed for them to put away)
·         Dinner
·         Whatever else on to do list (I find doing a big chore daily works well).
Daily Chores for children
·         Younger children can do all your chores with you. (wash dishes, play with pots and pans, unload silver wear, match socks, fold towels, rotate laundry, shake the salad dressing…)
·         The older children are in charge of putting away their laundry, other personal items and after dinner chore.
Weekly Chores
·         Saturday Morning (every member of the family has a chore and I check the kids). We do get a Saturday treat after chores.
·         Our daily and weekly chores are expected with no allowance. We do have an “EXTRA” chore chart with prices next to each chore. If the children want to make money after family chores they can do extras.
           
 III.        How to teach the young child?
Children learn best through play. Set-up a routine schedule that works well for both you and your child. You can break it up throughout the day.
·         Schedule a lesson plan into your day. And talk a lot, emphasize words.
·         Reading Time
·         Arts and Crafts
·         Letters, Numbers, Colors, Shapes, Sorting, Patterns
·         Sing Songs/listen to music
·         Color
·         Write
·         Build with blocks (don't let them destroy your tower)
·         Play dress-up
P    Play cars (talk with them about what they are doing "Max is driving the YELLOW car OVER the bridge)
·         Count (can do this while driving)
·         Rhyme Words (can do this while driving)
·         Respect for property (don't let them destroy toys)
·         Have Quiet Time (not nap time, quiet alone time. Need to expect more from our children)

 IV.        How to make time for yourself,  husband and each child?
We build deep and loving family relationships by doing simple things together, like family dinner and family home evening and by just having fun together. In family relationships love is really spelled t-i-m-e, time. Taking time for each other is the key for harmony at home. We talk with, rather than about, each other. We learn from each other, and we appreciate our differences as well as our commonalities. We establish a divine bond with each other as we approach God together through family prayer, gospel study, and Sunday worship.”  Dieter F. Uchtdorf
·         “Mommy is a person” (Refer to article on powerofmoms.com)
·         Weekly Date Night with husband (even if it’s at home with takeout & a movie)
·         Date with child (not necessarily out just sometime 1 on 1 with each child...painting nails, playing a game, reading a book, going to the store)
*I feel we can Make Time for anything we really want to. We can say I don't want to make time for that in my life right now.
V.       Wonderful resources listed below.

Parenting Resources

Here is a list of excellent resources that have helped in teaching my children...
http://powerofmoms.com/                                                                                       
 Here are the topics of just a few of  the articles…                          

·         Joy or “Just Wait”?
·         Mommy Is A Person
·         Your Children Want YOU!
·         Moms And Dads Are Just…Different 
       Here are some topic titles...
The Happy Family                                           Parenting Helps
 Four Phase Course                                     Value of the Month                    Entitlement Trap
 Family Rules                                              Family Night Lessons                                 
 Family Economy                                        How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex
 Family Traditions                                       Lifebalance

Favorite blog: http://www.71toes.com/  Shawni Eyre Pothier  young mother of the year in AZ for 2011,  Mother of 5, TOFW Speaker, Writer and Author A Mother’s Book of Secrets

A must read talk, Happiness in Family Life  https://www.lds.org/ click on resources then click on Home and family Happiness in Family Life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities.”                       ~ The Family: A Proclamation to the World ~
Books:
Parenting books by Linda & Richard Eyre…    http://www.eyresfreebooks.com/booklist.html
·         A Joyful Mother of Children
·         I Didn't Plan to Be a Witch by Linda Eyre
·         Teaching Your Children Joy
·         Teaching Your Children Responsibility
·         Teaching Your Children Values
·         Teaching Your Children Sensitivity
·         Three Steps to a Strong Family
·         The Entitlement Trap
A Mother's Book of Secrets by Linda Eyre and Shawni Eyre Pothier

Sunday, October 14, 2012

South Stake Fair

Yesterday our stake had there second annual south stake fair. It is so much fun mostly because everything is FREE! They have food, games, cotton candy, treats, prizes, face painting, a few bouncy slides, and they even had a rock wall this year. We all had a great time!
Max on the rock wall. He got pretty far up there.
Hanna and Van tried. It was too hard for Van, but Hanna went a little ways.
Photo booths:)

Daisy and Walt having fun on the bouncy slide.
Max all grown-up. If you look closely you can see Max is wearing his headphones. He was off on his own away from us most of the night. Where did the time go?
Hanna with her prizes and her mustache face painting. As soon as I saw that a mustache was an option I just knew this would be her choice :) They're growing up way too fast :(

MUDDY

The kids love playing in the mud. I was busy rotating summer clothes to winter clothes and they asked if the could play OUTSIDE in the mud and without thinking twice I said, YES!



Now that's a lot of mud!

Rainy Day

Popcorn and hot chocolate on a rainy day, just like my mom use to do.

Camping at Valley of Fire

The Valley of Fire is one of our favorite camping spots (after beach camping)!














Sunday, September 30, 2012

Fall Festival


We had a fun time at the Carnival this year. It's so expensive that I usually just buy enough tickets for the kids to go on 2 rides, but this year Hanna bought her own full day pass and Max lucked out and got a free pass on our way in and both of their passes came with free adult passes. Max and Hanna went on the "big kid" rides for the first time. I guess it makes it easy going on those rides with help from friends; especially when one of those friends is a cute girl that one might have a crush on. Danny went with Max on the Ring of Fire, which is a roller coaster that goes in a circle and stops at the top.  Ya, Danny was sick the rest of the night. When a person gets car sick they should know they can't go on rides like that one:) I took the little kids on the Ferris Wheel and almost had a panic attack! We only went around once and then I asked to get us off that thing. I didn't realize how afraid of heights I was. I guess I'm getting too old!
Here is a pic. from the Ferris Wheel that my friend took, since I was to afraid to look up.

 
Max with his friend Avalyn :)

Hanna with her good friend Briley.
Saturday at the parade. Van took the pic. for us and Max and Hanna were at their cousins.
My camera ran out of batteries right after this shot, darn it.

Good-bye Johnson's

Another good friend moved. Man it makes it hard to want to stay in a not so pretty town when friends move away.
Daisy and Walt's good friend Jacie moved to ID. We are so happy they will be going where they want to be, but so sad to loose another good family.
Saying goodbye to Brittany and her cute kids.

Friday, September 28, 2012

Clark 7 Months Old

You are such a happy baby boy!
Clark is sitting up now and has 2 bottom teeth. He rolls every where, which has sadly caused him to roll off the bed 4 times now. (Only one of those times were on my watch). I brought him with me to Time Out For Women last weekend and he was so good. Walt said to me last week, "I don't want him to get bigger". I assured him we will be having more babies, but he still wasn't okay with this cute little guy growing up. We all just love that contagious giggle of his, tasty cheeks and sweet little smile. We love you so much Clarky!


Saturday, September 22, 2012

Eleven Years

Happiest 11 Years of my life has been spent with my best friend and sole mate! I feel so blessed to have Danny as my husband and father of my children.

Sunday, September 16, 2012

Sunday Nap With Daddy


It's Soccer Time

I am coaching Hanna's team again. The Thunder Cats.
Hanna scored her first goal yesterday!
Max is being trained as Keeper.
Max the Dragons & Van the Lightening Bolts.
Van is great at defense! When the other team is going down to score 
he runs super fast and slide kicks the ball out of there. I love soccer season!

Cute New Pictures


The Jensen Kids

  With Cousins Baxter & Vincent.                                         With Grandma Susan.



The cutest 4 year old twins ever!